Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore
We can probably all agree that relationships are complicated in a general way. To add further complexity, the thrill associated with a new relationship can introduce another layer of blindness. The joy and need for human connection can make us oblivious to the red flags that a potential partner might present early on upon meeting them. Tragically, ignoring them could eventually weigh on mental health if they remain unchecked. So, if you are in the market for a partner, you should be sure that you don’t present any of these red flags and vet your potentials for the same. Here are a few to consider:
Overly controlling behavior is a common red flag. When people try to control your physical movement, decisions, style or beliefs and become more concerned with what they want than what is best for you. The key here is compromise and understanding of differences, not conformity.
Anger management issues can be a common problem in relationships, but sometimes partners may not truly understand how it impacts one another or contributes to other concerns surrounding their relationship. The type of behavior displayed when someone is angry can tell you a lot about how the person handles their emotions. Uncontrolled anger will likely interfere with daily living and relationship growth. Knowing how to manage and express emotions effectively should be the goal.
Poor communication in a relationship is the most common reason couples split up. Absence of proper communication between couples prevent them from sharing their ups and downs, which can cause them to resent one another. In some cases, the partner who has poor communication will end up confiding in another person which can be dangerous because it can erode bonds they might build in confidentiality. So, you must communicate well if you want your relationship to stand the test of time.
Low emotional intellect refers to the inability to accurately identify emotions in yourself or others and to use that information to guide your thinking and actions. Someone who is constantly doing or saying the wrong things, at the wrong time. or always judging others but has a hard time accepting criticism lacks emotional intellect. This is a major red flag that should not be ignored.
Considering these challenges and managing a series of red flags with your potential partner is going to be much more work if you are not honest with yourself. Conflict resolution is easier if everyone involved is being open and honest about how they really feel. Be honest with yourself, and don’t shy away from the truth. Setting boundaries is one of the most important parts of a healthy connection. Not all relationships are meant to last, which can be a difficult truth to accept, but understanding the importance of knowing your partner is the ultimate act of self-care.
